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7 Guys Explain Why They Shared Their Porn Viewing History With Their Partners

“Honestly, I’m pretty sure she owned more porn than I did.”

By
Frank Kobola

In terms of skeletons in closets, many people would probably rank their porn samplings up there as something they’d never want others to see. It’s a personal journey; one that involves lots of odd choices, mistakes, paths that take you places you never thought you’d wind up, and even the odd “that looks so weird I need to click on it” video. But sometimes, couples can learn from sharing. And sometimes, couples can get in weird fights by sharing their history, whether they meant to or not.

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1. “I have a pretty unique fetish, along the lines of BDSM-type stuff. I feel like that makes me sound like I’m huge into it, or going to conventions or something, or blogging about it on Tumblr, and I’m not. It’s just that when I sit down to jerk off, I have some pretty specific things that I get into. Anyway, it was something I wanted to bring into the bedroom with my then-girlfriend. So yeah, I basically went through and showed her a few bookmarked favorites to explain it better. I think it worked a lot better than trying to explain it. We’re married now, so it’s not like it freaked her out. She doesn’t love it, but she doesn’t hate it either, and we’ve played around with it in the bedroom a few times to mixed results.” —Anthony, 28

2. “I’ve watched a few celebrity sex tapes out of morbid curiosity, and that wound up coming up [in conversation with my girlfriend]. Anyway, I guess it never crossed her mind that I’d even look and she thought it was disgusting. Like Dustin Diamond has a pretty gnarly one. She had a really hard time understanding why I’d even be curious … I didn’t really follow that train of thought, but it turned a 20-minute car ride into a 20-minute argument. We moved past it but based on that alone, I’m not sharing any more of my porn history. And my porn history isn’t even that weird.” —Chris, 27

3. “My fiancée and I watch porn together sometimes. I’m very open about what I’m into, and so is she. I’ve even gone so far as to say, ‘Oh, I’ve seen this before. It’s good.’ And I can say that without getting any judgemnt from her. But I don’t think I could ever literally show her my history. It’s not that I like anything that would upset her, but, like … sometimes you just click on stuff. Maybe you don’t read the description, or it takes a weird turn, or you don’t really care that it’s a video of a guy peeing on a woman’s feet because the woman in the video looks really hot. It’s tough to explain to someone what you did in the moment, even if it was innocent curiosity. Like, I watched a video where a woman took, like, a literal 36-inch butt plug. That’s in my history now. How do I explain to my fiancée that I didn’t masturbate to that, I just wanted to see if this lady could fit it up there and I was rooting for her in the same way I’d root for an underdog team in the Super Bowl?” —Curtis, 29

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4. “So, an old girlfriend of mine knew I watched porn sometimes. What college guy didn’t? She kind of had a problem with it, which I got. But, like, if she went home for the weekend, I’m going to masturbate, right? Anyway, one day, she finally got it in her head that she’d watch some with me. So I’m thinking, OK, fine. We’ll get online and click through a few videos. I click on something I like, it was a video with a girl who had the same body type as her and they looked similar … in my naïveté I thought she’d take it as a compliment. We’re kind of spooning on my bed with the laptop and she slams my laptop shut after about 30 seconds. She had no idea there would be penetration. That was the first time we tried it, but we tried it again later with better results.” —Zach, 27

5. “My ex-wife and I were very open about porn. We had a healthy sex life and we were kind of old-school … we actually had a DVD collection. Honestly, I’m pretty sure she owned more porn than I did. I don’t think any of it was shocking outside of maybe some pretty aggressive sex though. But yeah, because of that, we knew exactly what the other one was into. It was fun, and it was usually just a means for us to have sex. Instead of throwing on Netflix and cuddling or whatever, if one of us had porn on, it’d usually get the other person in the mood. Honestly, it was amazing we ever got anything done.” —Jay, 32

6. “I’ve never sat down and gone through line by line with my girlfriend … we’ve never done an itemized list. But we share a laptop at home and I don’t use incognito mode. So she’s definitely seen stuff in my history and I’ve seen stuff in hers. We work pretty different schedules, so neither of us are upset if one person is home and wants to take care of their situation themselves. In fact, I’ve developed a ‘thing’ for masturbating to what my girlfriend masturbated to. I dunno if that’s weird. Maybe it’s weird?” —Pete, 26

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7. “Not on purpose. But once I left some stuff up on my computer by accident and went to bed. My (live-in) girlfriend saw it the next day because her laptop was dead, and she needed to check her email, so she pulled up mine, and there it all was. She had some questions. So she basically got to see the tabs I had open while I was doing the deed and saw real, unfettered access into stuff I look at. Nothing too crazy, but I think there was some hentai or whatever (I don’t watch it that often, I swear!). She doesn’t look at porn, like, ever, so this was really eye-opening for her. She’s really sweet and I really think she previously assumed all porn was basically the softcore late-night stuff you see on Cinemax. I felt kind of bad, honestly. She’s OK with it all but I think she was a little shell-shocked.” —Mark, 27

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